According to the American Psychological Association (APA), the probability that your fiance is not the forever guy is 50%. Shocked? No, you shouldn’t- of course, you should be able to read the signs early enough. While many ladies agree that men can be smart at hiding their claws, you, too, can be smarter. If you want to know whether the relationship is going anywhere beyond the fancy dinners and bedtime kisses, just check out these few points!
11 He replies your texts in seconds
He’s not your forever guy unless he actually replies your texts in seconds
Some men are fond of ghosting girls who are not ‘mind-blowing.’ But, you don’t have to be a Beyonce to win a man’s attention. No doubt, a man who loves you will want to speak to you, either in person or via texts. It’s hard for him to hide the love feeling forever. According to Dr. David Lewis, a leading neuropsychologist, men are as emotional as women, but they only try to conceal it in their chests. Thanks to texts, though, you can tell if a guy likes you or not. A loving man will be anxious to text you back.
Quote: Don’t just text me ‘hey’ then not reply. You are wasting my time waiting for the next message
10 He should flirt you like he did the first month
He’s not your forever guy unless he actually flirts you like he did the first month you met
It does not matter if your relationship is as old as Methuselah- if he’s there to stay, he’ll flirt with you like it’s only a few weeks since you met. A man who loves you will not just sit there and watch your relationship become mind-numbing. Instead, he’ll spice it up with punch lines like it’s the first time he’s wooing you.
9. He always has a plan to please you
He’s Not Your Forever Guy Unless He Actually has a plan on how to stick you out
Research by Harry Benson from the Marriage Foundation and Professor Stephen McKay of Lincoln University shows that couples who have regular night dates are 14% less likely to divorce. So, if he’s there to stay, he’ll never lock you inside to rot there. Instead, he’ll always have an amazing date plan. To him, sticking you out should be part of his top five things to consider. This means that he won’t let you do the planning alone. Thus, to save your relationship, he’ll work hard to get the Oscars of planning dates!
8 He will make you feel like you are part of his life
He’s Not Your Forever Guy Unless He Actually makes you feel like you are part of his life, and involves you in his decisions
If he loves you and is ready to commit himself for life, then he’ll involve you in his decisions. Forbes reports that 50% of couples divorce due to financial mistrusts. So, a man who believes you are his long-term project will involve you in his financial decisions. And, when he wants to do something, you will be the chief adviser. So, just play your role right!
7 He wants you to meet his friends and family
He’s Not Your Forever Guy Unless He Actually mans up to let you to meet his parents!
If you have dated for three years and the guy still doesn’t have any plans of showing you to his family, run away! Otherwise, why would he put you in his bedroom’s locker, where you cannot see his mom or sisters? Open your eyes- most likely, he doesn’t think you are good enough! A man who is with you to stay will be proud to let you meet his parents and friends.
6 He values your smile
He’s not your forever guy unless he actually values your smile- like it’s the most luminous thing he’s ever known!
If you are his life partner, his priority will be to make you happy. Your smile should be like sunrise for his heart!
5 Helps you do housework
He’s not your forever guy unless he actually helps you do the housework
This does not mean he should take the role of the house help- of course, that would be too absurd. But, a man who invests his life in you will not let the work break you down. Instead, he’ll chip in and at least, be a little human. Why on earth would a man who claims to love you sit and watch you do all the laundry and kitchen work all by yourself, honestly!
4 He should save for you
He’s not your forever guy unless he actually saves for your future
If he loves you, he’ll want your future to be bright. So, he’ll invest heavily today to secure you a good future. Preparing for an awesome future together should be at his fingertips. Thus, instead of smoking and drinking his salaries off, he will save it because he loves you.
3 He should be ready to let you win arguments, intelligently
He’s not your forever guy unless he actually lets you win arguments
Communication is the most indelible pillar of a relationship. So, your man should not avoid conflict. In fact, avoiding an argument does more harm than good because it puts the emotion in ‘ferment’ mode. A man who knows you are his sun and rain will have a way of solving the conflict without hurting you. Instead of defending himself, he will let you win some battles, just to boost your esteem.
2 He grooms himself, just for you
He’s not your forever guy unless he actually grooms himself, just for you
Just because he now has your heart does not mean he should start being untidy. If he wants you to stay with him, he should maintain the stunning look he had on your first date. He should always look nice, at least for you.
1 He keeps fit because he wants a longer life with you
He’s Not Your Forever Guy Unless He Actually keeps fit because he wants a longer life with you
If a man is with you to stay, he won’t agree to die young. While a grim ripper is not for him to choose, he can opt to remain fit in an attempt to live with you for long. So, he’ll hit the gym and have a healthy meal every day, because he loves you.
Hey, men! I hope these eleven things are not as hard as breaking the Bank of America! If you want a happy life, then you are going to put them to practice. Ladies, am I speaking your mind?